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We tend to forget that the holidays are on the same day every year, and we allow ourselves to get crushed both emotionally and financially. Instead of being a season of rest and celebration, the holidays are often stressful—and even painful. Stress is normal. Our bodies prepare to take action. Our heart rate spikes.
Our pupils dilate. Our muscles tighten. In the short term, stress can be helpful. It keeps us focused and alert. But living in a chronic state of stress causes horrific damage to our mental and physical health. Eventually, the car engine melts, the brakes fail, and we run the car into the ground. And in light of all the extra shopping lists, the travel plans, the awkward family conversations, and the millions of little expectations we place on ourselves, this season will require that we give ourselves and others some grace—a lot of it. This makes Christmas the perfect time for a holiday season reset.
By taking back control of your attitude, your approach to conflict, and your actions, you can cut holiday stress in purposeful and dramatic ways! Imagine that after experiencing job losses, health crises, a global pandemic, an election and canceled. Refusing to let stress run your life is a daily choice. To help you along your journey, I want to share 13 ways you can reduce the holiday stress before it comes so you can spend your time on what really matters to you.
It might feel like your mom, your father-in-law or your second cousin will be calling the shots. The last thing you want is to find yourself talking politics with an idiotic second cousin or making your fifth gingerbread house for the church bake sale and using resentment as frosting. Let me repeat myself: Choose to set your boundaries now!
Before you commit to travel or hosting plans, decide what your limit is. Is it three days? What about two weeks? By the way. You can say no. But once you decide and commit to seeing family, you must do it with a good attitude.
Holidays expose our need for boundaries with our families. Even the best families can drive you crazy. So this year, before you even pack your bags, spend some time thinking about the potential conflicts that will pop up with family.
You can ask him to stop, or you can get up and leave. Believe it or not, it can be done. Pay attention to when you feel uncomfortable, awkward, unsafe, embarrassed or trapped. If someone is drunk or angry or using foul language, you get to decide to walk away. There are only two things on planet Earth you can control: your thoughts and your actions. Then I write down the things that are in my control. Everything else gets tossed in the trash. Sometimes we experience stress by taking on roles we were never meant to shoulder.
Keep your mouth shut and know that your role is to support your girlfriend. Choose to be kind.
Choose to let dumb criticism roll off your shoulders. Choose to heap coals of kindness. Remember that your guest is missing out on their traditions. Ask them what they normally do and recognize they might be a little sad to miss out on time with their family. Instead of going to five Christmas parties, pick one or two. Social media pictures are generally lies. Hold hands, not video game controllers. Throw a football or kick a soccer ball—in real life.
I hope you choose human connection, joy and laughter over thumbs-ups and retweets. Each one of your electronic devices comes with an off button. Use it. Set expectations for yourself and others by painting a picture of what you want your Christmas to look like. Who is sitting around the table at mealtime? What are you all eating? Talking about? Are you laughing with your kids as you make Santa-shaped pancakes? Or are you holding hands with your spouse in front of the fire? Whatever it is, keep that picture at the front of your mind.
Ask them to paint a picture of what they want, too, so you can choose to honor them. Let your calendar and your to-do list reflect the Christmas you actually want to have this year. A budget is creating boundaries for your wallet or bank.
And budgeting helps reduce stress because it gives you a plan for your money. Make a zero-based budget every month before the month begins. Remember, you get to control your thoughts and actions—including your spending. You get to decide where every single dollar in your bank goes. Budgeting for Christmas will help you avoid the impulse purchases or spending too much on those white elephant gifts.
So make a budget and stick to it. You really can have too much of a good thing. Limit how much sugar you eat and feed your body with nutritious food as much as possible. Get outside and move. Nature is important for our emotional and physical health. And exercising gives your body a way to process and release stress Mom getting ready for christmas party.
Bundle up and go on your own Christmas lights walking tour or get an epic snowball fight going in your neighborhood. Even in the small things, you can prioritize movement. Anything is better than nothing! Anxiety affects at least 40 million people in the U. So instead of staying up late for the third night in a row to binge those Hallmark movies, prioritize your sleep. Not only will it keep your stress and anxiety at bay, but it will also help your immune system stay healthy.
Being sick at Christmastime is the absolute worst, so you need to do what you can to avoid it! As you all know, washing your hands and doing immune boosting activities exercising, getting outside, and resting will help you feel strong, peaceful, and healthy. Get enough sleep. Make time to enjoy the things you love. Read a book. Do a Christmas devotional. Or dive into some of your favorite Christmas movies that put you in the holiday spirit. To keep your joy intact, create some breathing room between parties, travel schedules, deadlines at work and shopping trips.
Try to stick to your normal routine. Having some normalcy can help keep you calm and focused on the day ahead. As we get into the holiday season, you might be facing more canceled plans. You might have to let go of the picture-perfect Christmas you had in mind for this year. I like to say that relationships are your emergency fund for life—so I invite you to think of this season as a chance to stockpile those funds.
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